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Friday, June 6, 2025

Moms, love, and a life of gratitude

Since this is the month we celebrate all of the wonderful fathers out there, I know I am a little late in reflecting on moms, but I feel compelled to put my focus on them today, since my own beloved mother's birthday just passed. (She has been gone from this earth since 2019.)

I've been thinking about love--what it is, how it is expressed, how deep it runs, what it feels like, etc.--when it hit me that there is really no other love quite like a mother's love.

It's true.

Mothers love unconditionally. Mothers defend their children, even when their support is not deserved. Mothers give life, in a variety of ways.

I hope you have experienced the depth of a mother's love, because it is a sure example God gives us that reveals his love for us. And, I believe, it transcends death. There are times when I can just feel my mom's presence.

But in case this has not been your experience, know that each of us has a lasting, deep opportunity to know such love through Mary, the mother of Jesus.

I encourage you to get to know Mary. Grow in your awareness of her. Experience for yourself a mother's love in her. Share her love as best you can with those around you.

I hope you have had the good fortune to know a mother's love and that you live a grateful life because of it.

Can I hear an Amen! for moms?
(Naturally, my reflection is not a dismissal of the special love of dads!)

Janet Cassidy
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Wednesday, June 4, 2025

The lasting impact of abuse

There's been a lot in the news lately about the Sean "Diddy" Combs trial. A lot of disgusting facts have come out. I actually don't follow it very closely, but there is one thing I have noticed, which I find very frustrating.

Everyone keeps asking why the women didn't leave him. They keep, in an accusing way, asking why the women praised him even after they were "free" of him.

Well, for one thing, I'm guessing, it's because they were not, ever, really "free." Underneath such questions is the ever-present implication that somehow these women are at fault because they stay.

What I haven't heard is conversation centered around the real reason women stay, protect him, and are hesitant to speak up against him.

The power an abusive person has over another doesn't just go away when the official "relationship" has ended. The fear and control the abuser uses over their victim/survivor remains for a very long time.

When are we going to understand that the power exhibited by abusers is so great, that the hurt they inflict (physically, verbally and emotionally) has a lasting impact?

When are we going to stop shaming people for their response to their abuser? It's not as simple as turning off a switch. Besides, don't we think the victim already loathes themselves enough for having loved such a monster, and being unable to let go of the grip they have on them?

Rather than asking, "Why didn't you just leave?" we should be asking "How can I help?"

I've read that people who have been abused don't like to consider themselves victims, but prefer to be described as survivors. In that way, they can take back the control they lost and try to start a new life.

If you know of someone who has been--or is--in an abusive relationship, be careful not to judge their actions based on what you would do, but see if there is anyway you can help them get out of it. And be patient. It may take a lot of false starts.

Janet Cassidy
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